欲加之罪,何患无辞?
这几句谚语,每天都会在电视剧里听见。
当你听见别人再讲的时候,
你会说别人老土。
可是,如果这几句话在现实生活中上演,
你又会如何处理得妥当呢?
是否继续把谣言传,还是尝试当个智者?
谣言本来就不会遇见智者,
人的嘴巴本来很美,笑起来,就会带给别人温暖。
可是,嘴巴说出来的话,是否还能带给别人温暖呢?
当以上的三句加起来,就算你坦荡荡的,
比清水还要清,也会被越描越黑,百辞莫辩。
如果嘴巴不能选择词语来表达,
不能说好话,那沉默就是金。
所有智者的你们,
是否有问问自己,如何分辨谣言是否真与假?是否是褒义或贬义的批评?
是否让自己的耳朵选择什么应该听?什么不应该听?
是不是从别人身上听回来就是真?还是以自己的眼睛为标准?
是不是能够分辨与接受别人所谓的批评?
不是每个人可以接受批评。不是每个人肯听实话。
因为接受批评需要勇气,从批评中学习需要智慧。
There was once,
one of my colleague told me,
" If you can't say something good, don't say it at all. "
Well, it is so true. Why say something where you know you will hurt someone's feeling,
where you know you will have to pay the consequences later?
And when everyone is discussing what you have just said hurt people's feeling,
and here comes rumours.
And this will change how others see you.
You might be a very good person, good and caring nurse,
good attitude, however, when rumours hits you,
what can you do about it?
And it spread like lighting, quicker than you thought.
And you start to explain yourself to the world,
where no one remembers, you were once,
have a good attitude,
you are a good person,
how good were you caring for others.
Doesn't matter how many good things you done in the past.
" Accept Criticism takes courage, need wisdom to learn from criticism. "
" Accept Criticism takes courage, need wisdom to learn from criticism. "
So, lesson learnt,
When you can't say something good, and if you know it will hurt other people's feeling,
just choose what your words. Remember, sometimes,
silent is golden.